Wednesday, March 18, 2015

Know Your Worth

Found this on Facebook, and thought it was worth sharing:



by unknown author

The point of this statement is that you've got to believe in yourself, to have confidence in yourself, and most importantly you've got to love yourself, because you cannot always rely on other people being there for you, saying what you need to hear, and giving you the support that you need when you need it the most.

I think it's also saying that every person's life has value, even if they aren't all personally valuable to you, they are valuable to someone, somewhere, especially to themselves.

Reminds me of this Buckminster Fuller quote I posted recently:


That's what happens when the fish lacks confidence in its own abilities and disregards its own vision of what matters, allowing its value to be decreased by those that don't recognize the value of swimming. Swimming and the ability to live and breath underwater is a valuable skill for a fish, but not so much for a bird or squirrel. If you listen to the birds who advocate the virtues of flying, and the squirrels who advocate the virtues of climbing, but who do not recognize the virtues of swimming, and you are unable to fly or climb, well than you will have been misled by those with limited vision, certainly by those who don't really have your own best interests in mind.

That's a problem many people have, and it's certainly a problem I have, that of defining what they value, and devaluing anyone that doesn't fit that model.

Some of my models are physical fitness, simple living, appreciation for nature, vegetarian diet, mental discipline, yoga, meditation, riding a bicycle and walking, not owning or driving a car.

I sometimes hold people to my standards, look down on people who have aversion to exercise, are fat, lazy, don't recycle, eat a lot of junk food, live a materialistic lifestyle, are loud, obnoxious, disrespectful of nature. Okay, there is a certain type I don't like, but my judging is a waste of time. It's not like my opinion is going to change the daily fast food eater into a vegetarian yogi. You've got fatsos, who love to eat, and are perfectly happy and content the way they live; and you've got fitness freaks who enjoy the struggle of going without, suffering the burden of lifting heavy weights and running many miles. Each likes to think maybe they are the best way. But both are going to die, so maybe the differences are not that big in the end.

No, I'm like a high flying bird, condemning the fat squirrels below that can't fly. Not that eating junk food is a virtue, but it's really not my place to criticize what other people eat. After all some people consider my way the wrong way. I'm sure that for everything I support and like, there's probably someone out there against it.

You do your thing. I'll do mine. Birds gravitate to other birds. Fish gravitate to other fish. Problem is when a bird tries to become a fish, and a fish tries to become a bird: smart fish become dumb bird, and smart bird become dumb fish.

You get problems when you complain about things that can't be changed, and when you try to force things to become something their not.

Like for instance, I like to complain about how much I hate living where I'm living. It's too hot. It's too dry. Not enough rain. I could also say something about the people, the culture, the politics, but I won't. The point is most of the things I dislike about this place are totally normal to it, and therefore unchangeable; it's part of the package, it goes with the territory. The problem isn't the place, it's that I'm expecting the place to be something it's not.

I'm pretty sure most of our problems with people stems from similar expectations that cannot be met.  Negatively judging fish for their inability to climb trees could be extended to all differences between people, differences of religion and politics and diet and lifestyle. Conservatives are mad at liberals for not being conservative; liberals are mad at conservatives for not being liberal. People are mad at people who are unlike themselves, or who do not condone or support their own choices or behavior. Yes, is mad at No. Etc. Etc. It's a losing operation however you look at it.

The point is there are way too many differences to ever be totally reconciled. We're not all going to get along. We're not all going to like each other. No matter how right you believe you are, and you could be totally enlightened, and yet, even so, there's ALWAYS going to be someone that opposes you, someone whose vision for the world is incompatible with your own.

Okay, that's because birds see the world differently from fish, and squirrels see the world differently then birds and fish. Okay. You cannot depend on other people with an incompatible vision to back you up. Not everyone's going to love you and support you, you've got to first of all know yourself, to believe in yourself, to love yourself and support yourself. And be strong.

It doesn't really matter what anybody else thinks about you, your opinion of yourself is what matters. That is the meaning of these two passages.

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