Thursday, October 23, 2014


"No one is ever really alone. You are part of everything alive."

Got that from a William S. Burroughs book, Queer, that I recently read.

That's pretty much the point I was making in my post about the difference between solitude and loneliness. A person who interprets solitude as a positive thing, doesn't feel alone when alone, in the sense that they have established a positive relationship to the larger world beyond people.

However, an important point to add in response to this quote, is that no matter how interconnected we all are, if we don't see it, if we don't feel it, it will seem as if we are seperate, as if we are alone, no matter what the larger reality actually is; we create the illusion of seperation.

Two people alone, seperated by the distance of thousands of miles, one person feels lonely, the other person doesn't feel alone and is enjoying their solitude. The difference is determined entirely by each person's interpretation of events. We are all part of everything else, but if you don't feel like it, than that is how it will be, even if that feeling is an illusion. This is an example of how a person creates their own reality. Reality is what it is, but we only see what we are willing to see.

It takes more than the absence of people to feel lonely. A lonely person is not only someone who is unable to make a meaningful connection with others, either due to their actual physical absence, or due to the more subjective absence of being unable to connect mentally and emotionally with them; it is a feeling of seperation, both real and imaginary, a seperation that breeds feelings of alienation and despair, a seperation not just from other people, but from the rest of the world. In this way loneliness is closely related to depression and mental illness.

On the other hand, people who feel part of everything alive, who feel a sense of belonging and kinship with the greater world beyond themselves, including the trees and the clouds and the sun and the moon and the stars, with mother earth and father sky, with nature and the cosmos, will never feel alone, with or without people, so long as they not lose that connection, that state of mind and feeling of reverence and interconnectedness with all that is.

But it's not enough to talk about it, to write about it, or even to think about it, you have to actually feel this connection in your heart. Anything less, will be hollow and illusory.

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